I've read that the secret to life is not to have what you want but to want what you have. I'm getting that we can try our best to create the life we live but if it turns out to be something different, accept that and make the best of it anyway. Yup, just like the saying when life throws you lemons then make lemonade! That attitude would help someone to not judge a situation but to say it is what it is so what do we do about it then?