Well, I got my new robe outfit and it's so cool. I shared some concerns with Paul about the Buddhist customs and how they might be offended if they saw me wearing it while married and such. And he had me cracking up laughing because he said that if any monk tries to beat me up for wearing it, he's got my back! I think what will be hilarious is when I'm out and about with Paul's family, out of all the Asian people and one Caucasian in the group, it's the Caucasian that's dressed as a Tibetan Buddhist monk with a shaved head. His mother is all about fitting in with high society and looking fashionable while doing it. Not many in his family ever liked me or accepted me (or my kids) well, I should say, my being me has always made them uncomfortable, but now I think they're really gonna cringe.
I just found out the other day that his parents were willing to fly his "pretty" previous girlfriend to a family reunion even though they hadn't been dating very long. But after Paul and I got married his parents refused to pay for me to come along on a family reunion for the first six years because (Paul's been told) Kayla's old, divorced, fat, poor and ugly, I guess not worthy of spending the money on. And his mother said to us straight up that unless our kids have HER blood in them, they mean nothing to her, thank goodness the kids were not there to hear her say that. Plus, I was told about a time that Paul's sister got an earful just because she made friends with a homeless person in her hometown. Sad to say, his family is not open to new ideas or change so he has struggled with being in their lives when they're so painfully cruel to "outsiders" and don't care that they are cruel even when it's pointed out to them.
I have always wondered how he came out of a family like that? Ironically, my own family will be asking the same thing about me. How did she come out of a family like ours? Well, I think it's beautiful that the more and more Paul's mother tried to instill greed and judgment into that boy, he pushed back and refused to conform to the unhealthy ways and instead chose to accept and love everyone just for who they are. Hence, why he is with me! I love you Paul.